Cdiff and marriage problems

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Zapper
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Cdiff and marriage problems

Postby Zapper » Sat Oct 26, 2019 11:59 pm

Has anyone else dealt with cdiff infection and recovery affecting your marriage negatively?

I had a fight with my husband today and he shouted out that “you have never been the same since cdiff. It fucked your head up”.

I do tend to clean more than normal and bleach things a lot. I worry about the cleanliness of certain things outside the home that seem pretty normal (public restrooms, hospitals, etc). I do have pretty troublesome post infectious ibs so my diet never was able to make a full recovery. But I can still go out and find things to eat etc.

Anyone else go thru this? Do we tend to get a little PTSD or is he truly just being a jerk?

Thanks again.

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Re: Cdiff and marriage problems

Postby beth22 » Sun Oct 27, 2019 1:43 am

A lot of us become PTSD, so you are not alone. You might want to try some counseling if you think it would help you. I did for a while. I still am careful with things like washing my hands before I eat in a restaurant AFTER handling the menu. I also wash my hands whenever I put on or take off my shoes. Most of us are left with some things like this. My husband thinks I overdo it too. I don't do the cleaning stuff so much though, I guess because I don't like to clean. I never did my laundry separately or used bleach on my clothes. But, when I had active c difficile, I did use bleach in the bathroom, but now I just clean normally and have a cleaning lady come in every two weeks to do heavy stuff. But, that is not because of c difficile. I always had that because I work and have back problems so I can't do heavy chores.

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Re: Cdiff and marriage problems

Postby Bobbie » Sun Oct 27, 2019 2:02 pm

Same here. Do try counseling. Also, try to do your cleaning when he isn't around and don't talk about c diff with him. C diff is hard on families BUT harder on us sufferers. We are the primary victims, but our families and friends are affected.

Been there, done that. "Feel" for you. Best wishes.

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Re: Cdiff and marriage problems

Postby georgina » Mon Oct 28, 2019 1:36 am

Well , if you want my opinion , he was kinda' of jerk to shout at you. Clearly , he doesn't understand how is like to suffer form something you never trully get rid of , and all the anxiety that comes with it. I had a very loving and supportive family that never gave up on me , i am sorry for what you are going trough.

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Re: Cdiff and marriage problems

Postby AnxiousJ » Mon Oct 28, 2019 2:04 pm

I went through something very, very similar. My husband has told me many times that I am not the same and I know I'm not either. He may have even said the same exact thing at some point.However, I understand it was not only hard for me but for him as well and our kids. I had it almost 4 years ago and still see a therapist. I still get very nervous when one of my kids gets sick or they have a friend over here who gets sick. I wasn't intimate with him for a VERY long time because I was constantly worried about getting a uti and needing abx (which I'm not not prone to but got after Vanco). I do feel the anxiety continues to improve but clearly am still dealing with it. I recently restarted Buspar after being off of it for 1.5 years.

Also, I've been a stay at home mom for more than 10 years and hope to go back to teaching elementary special ed. However, I am really terrified to go back as elementary schools are often full of sick kids in the fall and winter months. I am trying to get past this.

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Re: Cdiff and marriage problems

Postby D1dad » Wed Nov 06, 2019 8:07 am

I’m with ya. My wife discounted it so much that I woke up @5 am and drove myself to the hospital. I have a hard time over that to this day for it and nothing has been the same since, but I’m trying to get past it. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone but if she would have been making the same deal with god that I was for 8 straight days maybe she would have understood.

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Re: Cdiff and marriage problems

Postby D1dad » Wed Nov 06, 2019 8:10 am

AnxiousJ wrote:
> I went through something very, very similar. My husband has told me many
> times that I am not the same and I know I'm not either. He may have even
> said the same exact thing at some point.However, I understand it was not
> only hard for me but for him as well and our kids. I had it almost 4 years
> ago and still see a therapist. I still get very nervous when one of my kids
> gets sick or they have a friend over here who gets sick. I wasn't intimate
> with him for a VERY long time because I was constantly worried about
> getting a uti and needing abx (which I'm not not prone to but got after
> Vanco). I do feel the anxiety continues to improve but clearly am still
> dealing with it. I recently restarted Buspar after being off of it for 1.5
> years.
>
> Also, I've been a stay at home mom for more than 10 years and hope to go
> back to teaching elementary special ed. However, I am really terrified to
> go back as elementary schools are often full of sick kids in the fall and
> winter months. I am trying to get past this.

I work in hospitals and nursing homes primarily. My dad is fighting brain cancer and is now also in a nursing home and have been in both non stop. I understand your fears but you gotta live a life. I look at the antibiotics as the problem and not the environment we live in. I’m sure I carried cdiff for yrs but my rundown immune system and craving antibiotics for every little sniffle caused my issues not my job.


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