Let Them Give Birth! (Apologies for "man bashing.")

[Bobbie]

Today is our 48th anniversary. (I was a child bride.) For the last 48 years, my husband has given me the same gift (also the same thing for Mother's Day some years). The thoughtful gift is a box of pecan delights. He gave me this the year I had C. diff. and osteomyelitis of the jaw and could hardly open my mouth to eat - let alone chew caramel, nuts, and chocolate. (He eats what I don't eat so he had the entire box to himself.)

Due to other health issues now, I am not supposed to eat chocolate or nuts anymore and reminded him of this last night. So what was my present today?? A box of pecan delights! (I did eat two.)

I went out to dinner with some women friends and left him at home alone. I am buying myself several nice anniversary gifts tomorrow and am thinking about getting a new car. (I inherited some money from a relative.)

Unfortunately, murder is illegal in every state and country - even for "just cause."

[getwellsoon]

I have been married 44 yrs. and I so relate. At least he gets you something, I mostly get a card. He stopped the flowers awhile ago. If we happen to be in Costco when an occasion is coming up he says, You want flowers???? UH No not if I have to pay for them and pick them out myself. Men, you can't change them at that age. I can so relate Bobbie. Have fun with your girlfriends. They are more fun to talk to anyway. Carol

[Prayingmother]

LOL, I learned this too. Some husbands give bad gifts. Now I buy my own Christmas gifts and wrap them! haha

I am very thankful to have a husband who loves me, however we buy our own stuff now, :)

[wen23]

Happy Anniversary friend.Its rare that you find a marriage that lasts longer than a car. Enjoy Wen

[Bobbie]

I ate six of the pecan delights. Damn!!! I asked my husband to hide them. If he doesn't I am going to "toss" them.

I bought myself several lovely anniversary presents today. Lookin' good - or as good as someone in the "stage four of life" (according to our financial advisors) can. I've found it's best to try on clothes in a dressing room with low lighting without a three way mirror.

Food does IS NOT a good anniversary present. I don't think I will get a box of pecan delights next year - or for Mother's Day. Nagging/bitching can be effective.

Thank you for the "Happy Anniversary" wishes. One of us (or both) should have a purple heart - or a gold medal.

[Nancy1]

On our anniversary, we exchange cards. Woohoo... I like your idea of purple hearts. Good for you for buying yourself anniversary presents. I will have to remember that.

[getwellsoon]

Bobbie, Wen is right, at least we hung in there and have long term marriages. He may have his faults but he is always there when I am sick. I think I'll keep him after 44 yrs. Hope you had a good Anniversary with your GF's. Carol

[Bobbie]

Yep, too late to "change horses in midstream" to quote an old saying. And he has been helpful many times. Don't know what I would have done without him. BUT no more pecan delights

[saraht]

Bobbie, this made me giggle. Men are so typical, lol. Maybe next year he will get you something different? My husband and I have been together over 11 years now. High school sweethearts, married for over 6.
We got married, bought a house, and moved in, all in the same weekend. For our 1 year wedding anniversary I thought maybe he would get me something really special. I bought his something I new he would love, he gave me my gift and......
It was a certificate to get my car detailed.

I can't complain much because he does try, he thinks about things that he would think I would like, due to something I may have said. My husband works nightshift and drives out of town, I was pregnant and worried all the time about being home alone, so for Christmas he bought me....... A handgun.
Something I had never used before, I didn't even know how to hold it. Needless to say, it went back to the store.